Love Contract? What is it, and what is it for?

And NO, we are not talking about those who have to sign the document in the civil registry when they are going to marry; we are talking about the moment when we decide to form an affective bond with a person.

When we start a sentimental relationship, we establish or think that in automatic, certain behaviors, behaviors, limits, rules, respect, and so on must be assumed on the part of our partner towards us and, of course, also from us towards them.

However, it turns out that sometimes this does not happen that way; many people fall in love, without analyzing whether that person really suits them in their lives, whether they go the same way, if they want the same thing, or have a similar life project, whether their values are compatible, and so on.

This can eventually bring frustration, anger, fights, reproaches, and so on because it turns out that the other person was not what we thought or what we thought, and this is because we didn’t give ourselves the time to meet her and see if she could be compatible with us.

And we have said this in several examples from other posts; it is not the same someone who wants an open, polyamorous relationship or friends with rights, to someone who wants something “traditional” in the sense of getting married in some future, starting a family and sharing…