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Regrets and Guilts for Being Happy After a Loss?
It is quite certain that many of you have happened: starting to feel happy, hopeful, and illusions after gradually recovering from a loss such as the death of a loved one or a breakup of love.
Some even feel ready to start a new relationship with someone else or go out to meet different people.
But what happens when all this is interrupted by regrets and feelings of guilt? And this is something more common than you think.
Feeling this by smiling again, having fun, making plans, and experiencing the possibility of loving someone else can be affected by these negative emotions.
But why? Some swore and perjured that a person would be the only person in their lives, only they would love her and no one else, among other promises or oaths made at those times.
And the simple fact of starting to fall in love with someone or start having an amazing time because we are getting back, we can see it as a betrayal of the other person who is no longer with us, because we think we are “bad,” by the fact of feeling, what we are now living.
Some people live tormented by the memory of that someone who is gone, and because of this, they do not give themselves permission to smile and feel good again, which becomes a great attachment.